We human beings are team animals. We are not solitary animals. None of us would have survived to adulthood without a team of at least a few other human beings. We are a social species -- actually we are a cooperative social species -- and we have a biological/physiological/survival NEED “to belong” in an interdependent [...]
The one “thing” you always have the power to control (manage, direct) is your attention, your thoughts, your awareness -- the "relevant information" for your life in any moment.
Being aware in present reality – internally and externally – is as natural and basic for human beings as it is for every other species of animal.
Self-Doubt is probably THE most common "human disease."
You NEED to feel safe internally (physically and psychologically) in order to explore, to learn new skills, to experiment, to grow.
Most daily stress is self-generated by thoughts/judgments that "there's something wrong" -- either with oneself or with another or with a situation going on. Thoughts of "something's wrong" trigger the fight-flight system, even if only a little.
Optimal success & effectiveness in any area of life is about one's skill level -- not about one's "character." No one is born with certain fixed "character traits" that ensure success and happiness in life.
The simple secret for effectiveness in every kind of relationship -- love, family, work, friendship, neighbors, strangers.
If you're an adult and you're thinking-believing-acting as if you "have to" do something you don't want to do, you are acting like a child, or a prisoner, or victim -- not free, not at choice.