You NEED to feel safe internally (physically and psychologically) in order to explore, to learn, to grow, to develop fully.
When you don’t feel safe in the moment, you (your nervous system) will automatically go into some manner of “defending” against the felt/perceived unsafety, whether there is any real danger in the moment or the “danger” is only imagined — such as, the fear of making a mistake or the fear of being criticized.
When infants and young children feel safe, they are naturally curious and explore what’s new — they are naturally “open to learning,” when they feel safe.
- Website, blog, podcasts, videos, online interviews with researchers, teachers, and other recognized authorities, focusing on the human attachment system research, with special attention on the research into the connection between “felt safety” or “felt security” and the “human exploratory/learning system.”
- Successful research-based, culture-help/self-help book for general “mainstream” audience, synthesizing the “Safe to Learn” research in clear, easily-accessible tone, but without “dumbing it down.”
- Books, manuals & web content (including audio & video), for parents, for teachers, for coaches, therapists, and even for children, to teach and encourage “Safe to Learn Skills” for being “open to learning” in all areas of one’s life.
The Main Message:
- We human beings (and all mammals) have an innate “exploratory system” that is very much related to the innate “attachment system” and the stress response/fight-flight-freeze system.
- It is our “natural state” (“optimally functional” state) to be curious, interested, exploratory, open-to-learning, “beginner’s mind” when we human beings are safe and feel safe/balanced internally.
- When your “system” (your physiological system) (your nervous system) is triggered even a little bit into “unsafe mode”, your whole body system will immediately start to go into some degree of “mobilization” to “defend against the danger.” When you’re in “unsafe mode”, you don’t learn most effectively, or think creatively, or problem solve, or explore, be curious, be open-to-learning.
- If you have a “secure sense of self”, your “fight-flight system” will be triggered much less of the time. You will be much less likely to “scare yourself” with thoughts or stories of danger when there is no real present danger, and you will be more likely to stay “open to learning” and to exploring in your daily life and for your whole lifetime.
- Conversely, if you have an “insecure sense of self” or a “disorganized sense of self”, you’ll be more likely to “feel unsafe” more of the time or even feel “chronically unsafe” and therefore “chronically” defensive to learning, defensive to exploring and discovering new skills, defensive to growth.
- The good news is that feeling “chronically unsafe” and being “defensive to learning” are automatic patterns of mis-perception (brain patterns, nervous system patterns), and you can “use your brain” to change your brain patterns to be better at perceiving “the reality of safe” and thus to be more consistently “open to learning” and “open to life/reality.”
- The Basic Principles for our Self Project, SAFE TO BE YOU, also apply to the SAFE TO LEARN project.
1st we envision the SAFE TO LEARN website and a mainstream book for a general broad audience to be produced in a way that is accessible and relevant to all the same audiences as for SAFE TO BE YOU.
Secondly, we envision all the same niche target audiences as for our SAFE TO BE YOU project. Here are a few of our niche audience series ideas for SAFE TO LEARN
Parents: “You need to feel safe to learn how to be a most effective parent.” “You need to feel safe (confident/competent) to help your children feel safe & your children need to feel safe to learn.” These messages can be targeted to most ANY aspect of parenting, such as, for example: “Helping Your Child Feel Safe at Pre-School” or “Helping Your Child Feel Safe Learning to Read” or “Learning Soccer” or “Learning Math” or “Learning to Play the Violin” — the core goal would be to help parents (and teachers) really get how important internal self-safety is for learning.
Children: Picture books for young children, such as: “Safe to Learn to Catch” that could explore the simple truths (simple for grown-ups & older kids) that learning to catch is challenging and you won’t learn well if you don’t feel safe (eg. afraid the ball will hit you — an automatic response; or afraid your Daddy with scold you if you miss the ball). We actually envision many of our young children’s picture book ideas as “Parent-Child Books” for teaching both the child AND the parent about the importance of his/her son/daughter to feel safe to learn.
Teachers (any and all teachers): A Series “Safe to Learn for Beginning Teachers”; “Safe to Learn for Math Teachers”; “Safe to Learn for Junior High Teachers” etc. even a textbook series for teachers. This message really needs to get “out there” in our schools.
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In many respects this may be a more financially viable project, because the “learning market” is so huge and diverse and perhaps an even bigger potential audience than the “self-awareness/self-secure market” of the SAFE TO BE YOU project. It is possible that with the right team, we would build one team that would include both projects.
A science writer or non-fiction writer who “gets” the depth and importance of the SAFE TO BE YOU & the SAFE TO LEARN principles and research and who wants to Educate the Culture (or one Culture Niche) about these principles.
A psychotherapist who resonates with the universally applicable messages of SAFE TO LEARN for mental, emotional, behavioral health, and wants to make it a focus of his/her therapy and teach these principles to a broad audience (speaking, videos, online classes)
A scientist/researcher (Ph.D. level in any discipline related to “human nature science”), involved in research related to attachment theory, stress response, self-awareness/consciousness and who wants to be part of a consilient team for translating this research for application in most anyone’s daily life
A teacher/educator who wants to Educate the Culture about the principles of SAFE TO LEARN — could be a teacher to the culture in the broadest sense or a teacher/educator in one or more of niche areas.
A publishing professional who sees the success potential of SAFE TO LEARN and the potential for spin-off projects