Stop Fighting with Time (Synopsis Only)

Yogamanclock4190Many people seem to have an “adversary relationship” with Time, which is a pretty absurd coping “strategy,” since time is always “doing its thing” whether you try to “fight” with Time, whether you “flow” with Time, or whether you pro-actively “partner” with Time.

This would be a “Self-help” book/website.  Aims: (1) to get readers to be more aware of their own anxieties or “negative attitudes” towards Time;  (2) to help readers develop tools or strategies for being “partners with Time”;  (3) to help readers learn how to develop “good timing” in their relationships and in their work.

Part One would focus on the most current research about “time” and research on the universality of “time problems” (at least for those of us in the Western Developed world).  1st is there research on “time problems”?  Certainly “time management” is a big “industry” in the business world, but is this something that psychiatry and therapy or social scientists have studied/researched?   How much “stress” and “anxiety” in the world is focused around, or triggered by, “time issues”?  If “time stress” is not a psychological topic around which there is much research, then this part can be interviews with therapists and people who have “suffered” psychologically or functionally from “time problems.”

Part Two would emphasize that “It’s Your Time All the Time” (also alternate title) and the goal of “Being Partners with Time” focusing on the reality that time doesn’t start and stop during the day, during the week, during the year, during your life. Your life doesn’t start and stop during the day, during the week, during the year, during your life. But for many of us, it seems like our life does go in starts and stops. Some people only feel fully alive and “engaged in life” when they are working on a creative project. There would also be research here about how much better one’s mind and body works when one is “in the present” and connected to “the reality of the continuity of time.”   Maybe some “success stories” of people who’d struggled with “time issues” and made conscious changes to “live more in the present”, which is just another way of saying “being partners with Time.”  Maybe some exercises (not too many) for helping readers develop more skill at being “partners with time” and living life “in the flow of Time” rather than in starts and stops.

Part Three would be focused on “Timing in Relationships” — how to “synch up” with other people’s timing, whether it be parents in relation to infants and toddlers and adolescents; whether it be spouses; whether it be work relationships.  One of the messages and teachings is that you don’t have to “give up yourself” or “stop being you” in order to relate well with another person or persons.  The challenge will be to paint a picture of what “giving up yourself” looks like or feels like, so that readers may see whether they have the same tendencies or patterns — and then to give them some hope that they can change, and give them some effective strategies for changing.